Sunday April 7, 2013 I dealt with the two year anniversary of my mother’s death. In honor of her and a warning to my fellow Facebook users as to why I was on hiatus I posted:
Hello Facebook friends,
Today is hard. It’s been the hardest day yet and I’m not sure why. Two years ago I lost my mom. I lost the woman who listened to me talk about my future. I lost the woman who told me to stand up for what I believe in. I lost my childhood hero. I lost the woman that gave me my stunning bone structure and knobby knees. Thank you mom for teaching me how to be a lady. You’re the reason I’m creative. You’re the person who put passion in my heart. You showed me how to love, how to respect and how to be stubborn. If I had a question, you had an answer. If I had a cold, you had the cure. Thank you for building me up to be half of who I am today. I know I’m going above and beyond what you ever pictured. Bare with me today. I’m happy, I’m sad, I’m mean, I’m having a mental break down and I’m just a mess wrapped up in a blanket burrito today.
What did I receive? I received the amazing amount of love ever. Not only did a group of friends bring me a basket full of goodies and things to make me smile (sadly not pictured below), I had some of the best people around me all day. Someone was always by my side. I can’t thank these people enough.
What did I learn? I’m blessed to know the LAS cohort and the people I’m friends with. I learned opening up heals the heart. God, the great being, the Earth’s energy or whatever you as a reader believe in has blessed me. All the tragedies that have been piling up have finally evened out. It took me only 18 years to meet people that are here to change my life for the better. I’m luckier than most.
Thank you great being in the sky.
Little being on the ground
Brian Pruitt is a CMU alumni. He is a former all-American athlete, author and entrepreneur. Pruitt is also the founder of The Power of Dad. A program dedicated to turning fatherless inner city boys into men. His team is devoted to teaching boys 21 essential skills from tying a tie to hygiene and dating. Over a 9 month period the boys learn to forgive their fathers and are then able to graduate from the program as men. Pruitt grew up fatherless. Not until he was 22 years old did he learn that a clip on tie was unacceptable.
I can apply his story to my life. 7th grade was the last time I saw my mother. She didn’t walk out on me, I walked out on her. That year I decided my mother didn’t deserve to have me in her life because of the poor choices she was making. My mom, time and time again, choose one of my two stepfathers over her own children. Many times I told her “You forgot babies came with umbilical cords.” Even before then my mother wasn’t much of an influence in my life. After she divorced my father she put my sister and I on the back burner. I grew up without a motherly influence. Luckily I’ve always had our amazing family friend Gail, but she’s still not my biological mom. Without my mother there for me my dad had to try to fill in for her. He has always tried to be Mr. Mom but cannot teach me certain things. I learned how to put on makeup from a friend. Everything I learned about developing was from research and uncomfortably asking around. During my first period, though my dad continues to deny it, he told me that a period is a beautiful thing. In many cultures they send the women away from the village to have her period but we respect it here. Let’s just say my early years were equivalent to a bad episode of Full House staring Jim Long as Danny Tanner, my sister Madeline as Stephanie and myself as D.J. I wouldn’t trade the relationship I have with my dad for anything but it was a struggle sometimes.
Pruitt lost the parent he is supposed to look up to. His mission is to give struggling boys the influence of a man in their early years. His program is unbelievably respectable and I hope that it can grow. It even sparked a little interest in my heart for another passion.
Layout for the day:
1.) Wake up late.
2.) Realize you don’t have enough time in the day.
3.) Get clothing on-ish.
4.) Pull a prank on your neighbor.
5.) Get ready.
6.) Finish the posters you neglected all weekend.
7.) Prepare for the concert.
8.) Awkwardly force people to take paper from your hand.
9.) Realize you helped an amazing charity.
April 9, 2013 my LEAD team threw on a concert in the student lobby of the UC. My LEAD team’s focus is homelessness awareness. The concert brought out local performers such as Domino LAE and Hannah Beale. The goal of our concert was to raise awareness that Mount Pleasant doesn’t have a homeless shelter. Pastor Robert Griffus is on a mission to start a shelter in the community. Just this year he was able to turn his program “Open Arms Ministry into a nonprofit organization and find a site for his mission. Our concert also helped bring awareness to the community meeting for the following day.
If one thing was accomplished, it was that we informed students about what we want to do. We got the word out there and that’s just the start. I know that next year’s homelessness awareness LEAD team will be able to get an even bigger event going. The group now has the layout and connections we needed to grow.
I was born to a heterosexual couple. They lived a heterosexual life together. They had a heterosexual divorce. They have heterosexual friends. I live a very heterosexual life. I do heterosexual things. I plan on having a heterosexual marriage. One thing I had growing up in my heterosexual life was a homosexual couple. One of the biggest influences on my early childhood was that love is love. I saw their love the same as my parents’. I loved them, they loved me and they loved each other.
Recently brought up was that California, a state formally accepting of gay marriage, is now reviewing the law that states ‘Gay marriage is illegal.’ Many believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman. The New York Times reported on this subject. They brought forward both the pro and anti gay marriage views.
So what is everyone fighting about? There are many counter arguments to homosexual marriage. Many people believe it would destroy the sanctity of marriage, the government cannot afford to pay for gay marriage and that the couples would be able to adopt children. I believe these are all terrible excuses to stick with tradition. Tradition has its place and time but on occasion it needs to be mixed up.
So what am I going to do about it now? Well one, I’m going to continue to believe that love is love. All love is still love. I also hope to show my support in a march one day. I think that would be “awesome opossum.”
Dr. Joyce Baugh is a professor at Central Michigan University in the Political Science department.
Joyce Baugh was pro-Detroit. She loves the city. She spoke to our class before we left for our service project weekend. She really educated me on the city. I never thought about what really harms Detroit: racism. She interacted with our class by asking questions on the history of Detroit. She was beneficial to the class. She gave us back story on where we were going. She also helped to clear the air about the negative side of Detroit. She taught us a lot about the once thriving motor city. I wouldn’t mind taking one of her classes in the future. She was extremely interesting and easy to listen to. Since her speech and our trip, I have rekindled my love for service work and the city.